You Asked ... And Now I'm TELLING

Aight ... before my list gets any longer I'm going to go ahead and answer the questions that have already been posed. Now if other questions are asked AFTER the fact ... I MIGHT answer ... I'll have to think long and hard though ... lol.

**Here we go**

Kae-Z asked:

1) What is the shortest amt of time you've known someone before sleepin' with them?
The shortest amount of time ... sheesh! lol. Let me think ... I know I had days to prepare but damn ... lol. Ok ... probably occurred last year with R.A.W. I think we had known each other maybe ... 2 or 3 days. I gave it up on the first night!! lol. And the following morning ... and that afternoon ... it was a great first weekend experience.

2)Do you sh*t with the bathroom door closed even if you're the only one in the house?
HELL NO! I pay the rent up in that joint! Sure do leave the door WIDE open ... and I make sure I angle myself just right so I can see the t.v. too.

3)IF God would grant you permission to listen to one song while you're in heaven what would it be?
If God granted me permission to listen to one song while I was in heaven ... it would be ... "Someday We'll All Be Free" by Donny Hathaway.

"B" asked:

1) If God granted you three wishes, what would you wish for?
If God granted me three wishes I'd wish: 1.) for my immediate family (dad, mom, and sis) back with good health; 2.) for Him to give me inner peace, happiness and understanding; 3.) a family of my own

2) Do you think sex is just a physical activity, or an emotional bond between two people?
Nope. I used to think that ... when I was young and didn't know any better. But sex is an emotional bond ... a connecting of spirits between two people. It's your golden opportunity to sexually show your true love and emotions for the one you're with. There are physical aspects of course. But for the most part ... sex is mostly mental.

3) Do you believe in ghosts? lol!
I believe in spirits but not ghosts.

Cultstatus asked:

1.) When's the last time you had a real fist fight? Explain.
The last time I had a real fist fight was a few years back with my dad's daughter. She's a BIG girl ... I mean ... BIG. And I'm all of 5'5" ... probably not even half her weight. Well we were at my dad's mom house one night chillin ... my paternal grandparents, my cousin, and that bitch. So we're sitting there and she says some shit to me ... which is typical cause we are COMPLETE opposites ... I'm what she deems as a 'pretty girl' (you know the chick that refuses to get her nails dirty) ... and I deem her as a 'butch' lesbian ... so she's hardcore. Anyway! As usual, I try and ignore her and she keeps fucking with me. So she stood up and so did I. She's in my face poppin' shit and I ain't saying nuffin. So I take off my Nike flip flop and slap that bitch in the face as hard as I could with it. She turned back and then I punched her in the same spot I slapped her with the flip flop. And it was on from there. She threw me on the couch and tried to get me. But I flipped her off of me on the floor ... I landed on top of her ... I pinned her down and went to work. My cousin had to pull me off of her. It's amazing the strength you develop when you're pissed.

2.)What's the honest basis of your mood today?
The basis of my mood yesterday ... I hate fickle people. I hate loving fickle people I should say. B/c their fickleness affects my moods and my emotions. I don't know. I'm just tired of dealing with back and forth. It's one way or the other with me. Make up your fucking mind ... lol. Sorry!

3.) Describe an ideal first date (nigga!).
An ideal first date? I don't see not nan question mark there. But I will appease this query. An ideal first date ... food, drinks, laughter, great conversation in a location that's FAR AWAY from here. Take me to a beach ... break out a blanket and a picnic basket ... let the summer sun beat down on my sunscreen based skin (have to be skin cancer conscious) ... feed me grapes ... let's lay there and talk over wine ... shots of tequila ... margaritas. Let's eat exotic fruit ... assorted meats (turkey and chicken though) ... cheese ... crackers. Let me get to know you and vice versa. Massage my back ... rest your head on my hip while I'm leaning on my side. And then out of NO WHERE ... let's take all of our clothes off and run into the ocean ... can you imagine the looks we would get? lol.

Saga asked: (and I shouldn't even put these joints up here)

1) Is this a good question?
No. "Is this a good question" ... can I bust your head to the white meat? Is that a good question!!

2) If there was a crumb on the table and you cut it in half, would you have two crumbs or two halves of a crumb?
Saga! Don't give me questions like this! Let me think ... I'd have two crumbs ... dunno.

3) Aren't the 'good things that come to those who wait' just the leftovers from the people that got there first?
I concur. I hate waiting. That's my damn problem. I can't wait on you to finish flirting with the world and after 5 years decide you want me. Nope! I ain't go be able to do it! lol. It's like telling me ... I love you, I like you ... BUT there may be someone BETTER than you out there ... and I need to see. WTF! LOL.

Lawda asked: (I'm gonna answer your 4 questions ... I said 3 ... you making up your own quota and shit)

1. If u could spend the day with a male/female blogger that u know or don't know, who would u choose and why?
I would choose most of the female bloggers ... you, Nikki, Shana, Wise Diva, NeoDes (I know I'm forgetting some ... don't beat me up y'all). And I would want to b/c I see so much of myself in y'all. There is a commonality among all of us and I believe we can learn from each other's mistakes, triumphs, and experiences. Sorry, guys!

2. U mentioned that u could never "swallow." Would u reconsider during a freaky night with your husband or someone u knew was "The One"?
For my husband, there isn't too much I wouldn't do ... sexually. So, yeah, I would swallow. But not now!! Oh, hell no!! There are DISEASES and AIDS out there ... I gotta protect myself! lol. But yup if was a night where the mood was right ... there was enough weed and alcohol in my system ... and that's my husband ... girl, I would definitely serve him and enjoy it!

2. How many times have u been in love and which qualities about these lovers made u fall in love?
I've been in love ... twice ... that I KNOW for sure I was in love. My first love ... and my second love. My first love showed me the meaning of 'pure' love. It was the first time I had ever experienced a relationship and experienced love. He treated me so good ... so sweet. We were more mature than what we thought. He put no one before me ... he put me on a pedestal. And he respected me ... he challenged me to do great things in life. And when my sister died ... he woke up out of his sleep around 6 a.m. or so to comfort me ... and later that day my mom's boyfriend at the time dropped me off at his house ... I remember walking in and his boys were there. No one said anything to me ... and Corey (my first love) was sitting in a recliner next to the door ... he pulled me into his lap and motioned for the guys to leave. For hours I cried ... and he just held me ... and I happened to look at him and he was crying ... he said he hated to see me hurting ... he laid with me until I fell asleep. He woke me up by kissing me on my forehead ... he said he stayed by my side watching me sleep ... just in case I woke up and needed him ... he would be right there. I loved him ... he was good to me. My second love (or Neo) ... what can I say? He drives me crazy ... he makes me mad ... he makes me cry ... he puzzles me ... but I love him. I love him b/c he lets me know that it's ok to be 'ME' ... that I don't owe anything to anyone except myself ... that love is patient and takes time to perfect ... he showed me how to let go of past hurts ... and live and love again. I don't think I've ever cried over someone as much as I've cried over him. He taught me not to judge someone by society's standards ... but by what's in my heart. I have to stop here, Lawda.

3. What do u suppose would make the ingredients for a successful marriage?
A successful marriage ... COMMUNICATION ... you can't do shit w/o talking. INDIVIDUALITY ... there IS life outside of marriage and I don't want my husband to feel as if we're 'IT' ... I want him to go out with his friends at times ... I want him to still be able to be him and my husband as well. HONESTY ... 'cause if I'm trusting him to go out with his trifling friends (lol) I need for him to be honest with me ... honest about his feelings. TRUST ... I need to be able to trust him w/o a doubt ... 100% I know he ain't doing inappropriate shit. FUN ... I'm stoopid as hell ... I need someone who is just as crazy as me ... lol. Humor and fun make the marriage work ... I know we get all weighed down with life's problems ... but having someone to laugh at the fucked up shit makes life worth living ... lol. Seriously ... laughter is the BEST medicine. FAITHFULNESS ... I need a ride or die dude ... cause fa sho he has a chick that will remain faithful to him and the marriage ... NO MATTER WHAT ...faithfulness lies in our ability to remain committed to the marriage ... and committed to having each other's backs. GOOD SEX ... I'm a Scorpio and I enjoy having sex ... and I would be a MISERABLE wife if my sex life sucked ... and he would be a MISERABLE husband cause I wouldn't want to give him any. NO OUTSIDE INFLUENCES ... it's just me and him (and our kids) ... there is NO reason why my family should have a voice in the decisions that are being made in my household ... when we join as man and wife ... we separate from our families to develop our own ... it's all about us and no one else! PRAYER ... God has to be an intricate part of the union.

Neenalove asked:

1. What are three songs that describe your current love life?
That's easy ... lol. "Emotional Rollercoaster" by Vivian Green; "I'm Done" by Tweet; "Be Happy" by Mary J. Blige

2. Can you enjoy sex WITHOUT being in love?
I CAN ... but it's not as fun and romantic. Probably not ... I would be holding back sexually ... I wouldn't be able to perform certain sexual things w/someone I wasn't in love with and enjoy it!

3. Describe the perfect 24 hour day, if money were no object?
Perfect 24 hour day ... giving my grandmother EVERYTHING she's ever wanted.

Dakelzz asked:

1. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
I would live in Paris, France. I've ALWAYS wanted to live there. When I was a young girl, I had dreams of writing my novels while sitting in a windowsill with the Eiffel Tower right outside my window.

2. If you knew you only had 24 hours to live, what would you consider priorities to have done before you die?
I would tell everyone that I loved ... that I loved them. I would make it a priority to visit them all ... kiss them ... hug them ... and tell them 'I love you'

3. If you had to choose one which would it be, the red or the blue pill?
Which one is which? lol. The red one!